1. Timothy Keller – The Meaning of Marriage
英文原文：
“When you ask your spouse to be your God, they will always fail you. No human being can bear the weight of being someone else’s ultimate source of joy, security, or identity.”
中文译文：
“当你要求配偶充当你的上帝时，他们必定会让你失望。没有哪个人能承受得起成为另一个人终极喜乐、安全感和身份来源的重负。”
2. C.S. Lewis – 转述自 The Four Loves 中的思考（Paraphrased）
英文原文：
“If we ask of any human creature what only God can give, we demand of them what they cannot supply, and we ruin the relationship in the process.”
中文译文：
“若我们向任何受造之人索求唯有上帝才能给予的东西，便是强求他们供应自己所不能的，结果只会毁掉这段关系。”
3. Paul David Tripp – What Did You Expect? Redeeming the Realities of Marriage
英文原文：
“No home, no spouse, no family can be the ultimate satisfaction for the human heart. When we try to make a god out of our marriage or our partner, we destroy both the marriage and the partner.”
中文译文：
“没有哪个家庭、哪段婚姻、哪个人能成为人心终极的满足。当我们试图把婚姻或伴侣当作神来崇拜时，我们便同时摧毁了婚姻和对方。”
4. Henri Nouwen – Reaching Out
英文原文：
“Expectation is the root of all heartache in human relationships when we confuse the finite love of a person with the infinite love of God. Your spouse is meant to be a companion on the journey, not the destination.”
中文译文：
“当我们把人有限的爱与上帝无限的爱混为一谈时，期望便成了所有人际关系中心痛的根源。你的配偶本是你旅途中的同伴，而非终点。”
5. Fr. Richard Rohr – Falling Upward
英文原文：
“A marriage becomes mature when both partners realize that neither of them is the Savior. Once you stop demanding perfection from your spouse, you can finally begin to love them as they actually are.”
中文译文：
“当夫妻双方都意识到自己不是对方的救世主时，婚姻才走向成熟。一旦你不再苛求配偶完美，你才能真正开始按他们本来的样子去爱他们。”